Season 2 Episode 31 – Being Loyal to the Big Picture

“If I think loyalty is only to a person, then it’s always going to show up as a conflict for me.” – Kari Granger

Like curiosity, loyalty is another key to accountability. This may seem counterintuitive — afterall, isn’t our loyalty to others what makes holding them to account difficult in the first place? Actually, we have a choice. We can be loyal to a person’s shortcomings (and suffer the impact). Or, we can choose to be loyal to a person’s capacity to grow and learn. We can be loyal to the mission we set out to accomplish together. We can be loyal to our their ability to reckon with the impact of their behavior and choose differently. And, we can do it all with compassion. Join Kari Granger and Paul Adams as they uncover what motivates our loyalties and how to elevate our loyalty to transform performance and relationships.

In This Episode:

00:59 – Introducing today’s topic: Being Loyal to the Big Picture

01:17 – The second key to accountability: Loyalty

02:28 – Kari recalls her experience working at the U.S. Air Force Academy

03:58 – Grappling with loyalty and accountability

05:51 – The different ways in which loyalty can manifest itself

06:58 – To what are you loyal?

07:41 – Paul provides an example of selfish loyalty

09:05 – Kari shares how accountability and compassion can co-exist

11:20 – Paul recalls an example of how Kari’s team showed loyalty to a specific outcome

14:51 – The value of being loyal to potential rather than a person

16:10 – Kari and Paul challenge the audience to question where they can upgrade their loyalty

17:13 – Higher Order Loyalty

18:54 – Paul encourages listeners to share this episode and use it as a tool to enhance loyalty within their organizations

20:04 – The importance of raising your loyalty to the integrative whole and greatest good of a team or organization

21:44 – Kari leaves the audience with a final thought to ruminate on

24:27 – Paul encourages the audience to reflect on this episode and to start a new conversation about loyalty

Quotes:

“‘Loyalty’ is a word that bristles me.” – Paul Adams 

“If I think loyalty is only to a person, then it’s always going to show up as a conflict for me.” – Kari Granger 

“Often times, we end up being loyal simply to avoid the loss of this admiration.” – Kari Granger 

“I can actually be loyal to their bigness. I can be loyal to their capacity to come clean and to grow out of this situation. If I’m loyal to that, I can have conversations with them. I can support them. I can bring compassion and accountability, not one or the other.” – Kari Granger 

“Do I want to be loyal to looking good in the moment? To substandard performance? Or, do I want to be loyal to who we can be, our potential, accomplishing the great?” – Kari Granger 

“If you’re aligning your loyalty to the bigger picture, you may find yourself a lot less stressed out in the midst of breakdowns.” – Paul Adams 

“Can you raise your loyalty to the integrative whole rather than one piece of the pie?” – Kari Granger 

“You have to remember that I was the one to mess up our good vibe. It’s not you that’s messing it up by holding me to account, it’s me that messed it up by not doing my work.” – Kari Granger 


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Links:

Kari’s Website

Paul’s Website

Paul’s Other Podcast: Your Business Your Wealth 

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Acknowledgements:
Our work is mosaic art. We read, study, and practice many philosophies, methodologies, and modalities of human performance, to ensure that our approach best serves our clients. We would like to acknowledge all of the thought leaders and organizations, whose ground-breaking work has influenced the Granger Network approach – especially Fernando Flores, Jim Selman, Michael C. Jensen, Julio Olalla, Pluralistic Networks, The Newfield Network, and the Strozzi Institute.

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